The path of relationship exists for the remainder of life once one has a child. I often wonder if couples had a map earlier in their marriages would they have endured the pitfalls of marriage and seen the possibilities in the effort. Therapeutic skills, “tending the garden,” can be applied to both inner and outer work. If two share a child then they will be a couple. Those 50% who do this positively have less wounds in need of healing. Those 15% who create a strong and supportive relationship after divorce are trailblazer’s of possibility. Children will always benefit when the parents come together for celebratory rituals like graduation and marriage. But had they had a map such as this? I wonder?

Do you believe that nagging each other will bring happiness to your relationship?